@Sandra The only one I ever had a lot of trouble with was not taking anything personally. For some reason, the other three agreements came more naturally to me….especially do your best and don’t make assumptions.
@Linda definitely. I think it’s a tough one for every body. I couldn’t get into the Fifth Agreement. Maybe I should re read the Four Agreements and see if it helps.
All of Nicholas Sparks books!! When I was trying to quit smoking, I read ALL of his books to keep my mind busy and not think of smoking. It worked, I haven’t smoked in 10 years.
Percy Jackson by Rick Riordan. I read them when I started college and went through a lonely period and dealt with depression. Those books mean the world to me. ?
Jenny Lawson’s two books: “Let’s Pretend This Never Happened” and “Furiously Happy.” Her honest and incredibly humorous portrayal of mental illness is on point. Whenever I’m feeling low, I reach for one of these books.
Anne helped me, too! I was 13 and felt so out of place in the world. She made me proud of being unique. Such a good character. As well as Mathew and Morelia
The Outlander series. My best friend died of cancer and I dove into that series for months. It was an amazing escape. I still go back to it when stressed, like right now.
The Count of Monte Cristo. I had just lost my very young cousin. I couldn’t read, couldn’t listen to music, just couldn’t focus. I got my mind around a book…and this was it. My release from real life. I will never forget it.
Drinking, A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp, my relationship was breaking apart and this book gave me a glimpse into a struggle that I did not understand. I now own several copies of the same book and always have a copy to give away to another person that may be facing something similar
Surprisingly, it was “Les Miserables” because it was about people who were so much worse off than I was at the time. A book full of compassion and all the human emotions.
‘The valley of horses’ by Jane M. Auel ., it was the 2nd book in her Earth’s Children series—after the Clan of the Cave Bear.
The main character, Ayla, is alone in her valley and she survives well but is terribly lonely—it helped me process my own loneliness as well as appreciate friends and family even more ❤️
As crazy as it sounds…The Twilight Series and Pride and Prejudice. I totally identified with the character relationships in the Twilight series. It really woke me up and helped me realize I was stringing my best guy friend along due to insecurities from a Bella/Edward type of relationship I had just gotten dumped from, and that wasn’t right. So I put some space and time between us. And Pride and Prejudice gave me my confidence and hope back. I have read that series and Pride and Prejudice (and all of Austen’s other books) so many times. I could have spent my life stuck on that “Edward” ex and sitting on the fence with or settling with his “Jacob” counterpart, but instead, I got my Darcy because I let go and I spent time just living my life.
Unbroken, after reading this book, I vowed never to feel sorry for myself again, what a incredible inspiration Louie was. I have never been moved more .❤
The Sea by John Banville helped me through the loss of my father and the Silver Witch and Oryx and Crake (fantasy to escape reality) for my mother’s death
@Heidi then I also recommend his other book, This Much I Know Is True. I loved that book too. But be aware he is a quirky writer and for as many who love his books, probably more are firmly on the other side. I say go in with an open mind and give him a try. For me, I have loved his books
Anne of Green Gables and Little House on The Prairie series, many times over and over, most especially when my father passed away. The Bible is also my constant comfort.
In order of reading over a period of 20 years experiencing the loss of loved ones and then my health- The Road Less Travelled (Peck) When Bad Things Happen To Good People ( Kushner) , The Four Agreements (Ruiz) How to Be Sick (Toni Bernhard) and lastly When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
The Bible. Voltaire’s Candide taught me that the world can be a hard place, so it’s important to cultivate my own garden. Also, one hard summer when I was young, I read and re-read all of Louisa May Alcott’s books many, many, many times.
Yes, I’ve seen both series as well. There is also another trilogy focusing on Fleur’s cousins in laws, she makes appearances, especially in the 8th novel. Trilogy is called End of The Chapter, it’s decent, but what you must read if you haven’t is On Change, a collection of short stories about the family that fills in gaps of time and also tells the stories of the older Forysthes. The story set in WWI is especially fantastic.
@Heidi I found the book harder to get through because I watched the movie first. Try the book first then the movie to see if it makes sense. Its all in interpretation to my mind. Strongly recommend it. I watch the movie over and over again.
Going to school and reading were my refuge as a child living in an alcoholic, chaotic family. Books were my escape and my dearest friends. So all of them. Now, I have a very contented and stable life with a wonderful husband and family. They are my pleasure in life in addition to my faith and family.
In college a dear friend died in a car accident, then every week or so my best friend and I would have another death occur of friends or family. One of the guys gave me his copy of The Prophet and it got me through that time….and in my depression I became a stewardess, trained in sunny Miami in Jan.-Feb., made great friends, was stationed in New York and found new confidence and joy.
When my mother passed away, I read Sophie Kinsella’s Shopaholic series – 3 books at the time. Confessions of a Shopaholic, Shopaholic Abroad, and Shopaholic Ties The Knot. They were happy stories and I needed that at the time. Got me through the days.
Kristi Serven Cunningham Becky Jackson I would also recommend reading Just Mercy by Mr Hinton’s attorney, Bryan Stephenson. One of the best books I have read. We read it in my book club two years ago.
Fear of Flying by Erica Jong it was printed in the 70s. I was going thru a bad divorce. And you may take it for granted now, but it was very empowering for women then. Totally amazing book
Books by Dave Pelzer, A Child Called “It” and other autobiographical books in that series. Talk about resilience after years of shocking abuse and neglect!
Heidi K. Weber. It’s time. I too was a late comer to the series, but I almost envy you as you’ll be reading them for the first time. Most of us are on our Nth time reading, over and over. ??❤️
Never read EPL but really enjoyed Big Magic. Eliz Gilbert always reminds me in tone and style of Brene Brown — who I’ve found can be very grounding during tough times.
Just books…they take me away for awhile and let me be someone else. I see it as a type of meditation as you are focused on the text and hopefully nothing else.
My Year With Eleanor by Noelle Hancock. Its about being brave in the face if hardship. The inspiration is Eleanor Roosevelt and how she overcame her many challenges.
Paper Moon when a child. Too young to recognize some of the tough realities of this book but loved Addie Pray and how clever she was. That novel was more like a naughty (childlike naughty) friend that kept me company. I read it over and over.
This book was given to me as a gift when I lived in Italy. I loved it. Then we moved to the US. I was 11 years old. The first year and a half was so tough. I was terribly homesick and cried every day and this book was my consolation. The protagonists, two orphan sisters, went through rough times and overcame adversity to find happiness. Their story gave me hope that some day life would get better for me too and that I would feel happy again. I read the story over and over and always carried the book with me and of course it is still in my book shelf.
I got this from my parents as a graduation present from high school, and I have reread it so many times when I need to be centered. I even have a quote from it in my classroom.
Dear Barbara, Dear Lynne when I felt like I was the only one who was having trouble conceiving. I am now the proud mom of two teenagers. It was many moons ago, but a very difficult time and sharing the journey with these two strangers through their letters helped me know I was not alone
Keneally’s Schindler’s Ark, book that Schindler’s List was made into a movie from, but not sure if this is the title, read it long ago, love all Keneally’s work
I know this much is true by Wally Lamb. My Uncle, who was schizophrenic for over 60 years asked me to read this book so that I could better understand his malady. I encouraged many of my family members to also read it and it gave us a better perspective of his life.
@Diane One of my most treasured books. A friend gave it to me over 50 years ago and it has comforted me so many times throughout my life. It is my constant companion. I have also given numerous copies to friends over the years.
The Art of Racing in the Rain gave me a lot of strength. The quotes in that book helped me make it another day when I was suddenly widowed. It was my support network and I learned how to race in the rain.
I just happened upon one of the best books I’ve ever read yesterday. It’s called Found by Micha Boyett. I got it at the library and found it’s on sale for .99 at http://christianbook.com/ through tomorrow. I bought one for me and multiple copies for Christmas presents.
When I needed it, it was a story of a woman following her deepest instincts and transforming herself. (Just came to that realization). The book lived on my table next to where I sat. Immediately I finished it, I would start it over. Calm and peaceful inspite of the things happening within the abbey.
Thanks, it’s a great book. The title drew me in and I knew of Tuesday’s with Morrie. It helped but not the way you would think. It actually had nothing to my situation but afterwards I knew one more day would never be enough. ❤️❤️
Two books: Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander. I had started reading this book just before my father died in Jan 1993 and afterward when I could concentrate on books again I picked this back up and was totally engrossed. 2nd book Also right after this I started reading the Lord of the Rings series as I wanted some sort of total escapism.
The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah, after becoming a widow, adjusting to circumstances out of my control. Plus, great Historical Fiction, connecting some dots for me. How did average women survive WWII?
@Linda , Anna Quindlen will be our guest in Peters Township, south of Pittsburgh, on Thursday November 7,2019 as a guest of The Peters Township Library Foundation. Check back in the summer when ticket sales will go live. http://ptlibrary.org/
He has written so many wonderful, inspiring books. Another one I love is The Lord Is My Shepard: Healing Wisdom of the Twenty-Third Psalm. As a Christian, I thought I understood the 23rd Psalm but after reading this book I realized I didn’t. Harold Kushner’s experience as a Rabbi and his knowledge of Hebrew allows him to explain this Psalm fully. I have given copies of this book to my family and friends. One of his books on my to-read-list is How Good Do We Have To Be? A New Understanding if Guilt and Forgiveness.
@Donna thank you. It was 30 years ago, but I still remember the comfort that book brought me. I didn’t know that Kushner wrote other books. I’ll have to keep that in mind for future reference. @Carolyn I am so sorry about your sister.
@Caroline I have not read this but in the recesses of my my mind, I believe I have heard of it. Is it fact or fiction? I can see what I think is obvious, but could you maybe expand with a sentence or two, please?
@Jill it’s nonfiction. The author lost her mom at 17 and was looking for a book about dealing with that particular loss. When she couldn’t find one, she wrote a book about her own experiences of growing into adulthood and being an adult without her mother.
@Carolyn My brother-in-law died of pancreatic cancer before the author was diagnosed and wrote the book. My BIL (my sister’s hubby) was like by big brother-they were married when I was six. It was a few years before I could read the book but what an incredible book and what an incredible person Randy Pausch was. It was slow reading for me because I cried through many parts and I am crying now as I write this. It is a very personal and very touching book.
@Carolyn I am sorry that you lost your Dad. Pancreatic cancer is one of the many terrible diseases. I don’t think I can read the book again, tho. I did see the film. His widow, Jai, wrote a book after his death, Dream New Dreams: Reimagining My Life After Loss. I read her book after losing my husband 3 1/2 years ago. At the time the book was published, she had remarried.
@Carolyn some of the reviews on her book weren’t positive. My husband died unexpectedly in a very tragic accident and after the shock wore off about 6 months later, I read several books on widowhood and hers was one.
@Carolyn thank goodness for books! I have a coffee mug that my mother-in-law gave my husband years ago. It says, “I cannot live without books.” -Thomas Jefferson- (It says “Monticello” at the top)
@Carolyn a friend and I have been in a local book club but it became too political. My friend and I want to discuss books not politics. I took my grandkids to a puppet show last night at my local library and one of the librarians there was telling me about a book club at a nearby branch during the day so I am going to check that out tomorrow.
The Curious Charms of George Pepper is about a man whose wife dies and he spends the first year despondent. The discovery of a charm bracelet leads him on a mission to discover the meaning of the charms and helps him find his value
The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings. I would walk in the woods with a walking stick wishing I could be on a journey with them! In high school you have a lot to think about!
I didn’t have just one book, but Stephen King’s books always kept me so captivated, that I was able to step away from whatever sadness had come upon me, even for a short period of time!
They can provide entertainment, escape, involvement, information, intellectual growth and stimulation, as well as the same emotionally and spiritually, if they are of enough substance and worth in those venues.
@Mary I remember reading that book when it was published after I graduated from high school. It is an amazing story about an amazing survivor. I do know that there is a second book but I haven’t read it.
@Rita Yes! Both of them! I love them! I read Wishin and a Hopin last christmas which was so much fun and I was estatic to read We Are Water a few years back. I wish he would put out another novel.
A Gentle Thunder, Max Lucado.
Oddly enough, A Brief History of Time, Professor Stephen Hawking.
Man’s Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl
A Prayer for Owen Meany
Aleph by Paulo Coelho
The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama and the Dalai Lama’s Book of Wisdom.
In the Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant
The Five People You Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom
Sorry, but no book ever helped me through a rough time in my life!
Furiously Happy
Recently finished this and I agree! It really helped in many ways.
That Summer by Sarah Dessen
Wild by Cheryl Strayed
The whole Mitford Series by Jan Karon. And also the Stephanie Plum series by Janet Evanovich.
Mitford ?
If I need comfort, I run to Mitford.
Interestingly (or not) Clan of the Cave Bear
Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom & Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
I have read all of Mitch Albom.
“Why Bad Things Happen to Good People”
The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch
How I loved that!
I always read Harry Potter when I am upset, even if it’s just a chapter on a bad day. It’s comforting.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Mainly the part about taking nothing personally.
The Four Agreements is a great book! I feel like I should re-read it often
@Sandra The only one I ever had a lot of trouble with was not taking anything personally. For some reason, the other three agreements came more naturally to me….especially do your best and don’t make assumptions.
@Linda definitely. I think it’s a tough one for every body. I couldn’t get into the Fifth Agreement. Maybe I should re read the Four Agreements and see if it helps.
The Year of Magical Thinking. Joan Didion
All of Nicholas Sparks books!! When I was trying to quit smoking, I read ALL of his books to keep my mind busy and not think of smoking. It worked, I haven’t smoked in 10 years.
Chicken Soup For The Soul
Maiden Voyage by Tania Aebi. Her story- her courage- her journey!! Her book still is one I read regularly!
The Year of Magical Thinking.
The Bible.
Percy Jackson by Rick Riordan. I read them when I started college and went through a lonely period and dealt with depression. Those books mean the world to me. ?
The Road Less Traveled and People of The Lie. By M. Scott Peck. All of a sudden, the world started to make sense.
Love the Mitford series! I want to move there ❤️
Gifts From the Sea, by Anne Morrow Lindbergh.
Kept a copy on my bedside table for years!
@Anne I read it every summer…at the beach, of course!
The Trick is to Keep Breathing, Janice Galloway
The Alchemist
All of David Eddings books.
Peace like a river
“Bodies in Motion and At Rest: On Metaphor and Mortality” by Thomas Lynch. Still one of my favorite books, have read it a few times.
When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold Kushner helped trying to understand a best friend’s diagnosis and death from ALS…
Passages by Gail Sheehy
Harry Potter series and oddly enough, old cannon star wars books. Escape and fun reads helped me in a deep depression.
Jenny Lawson’s two books: “Let’s Pretend This Never Happened” and “Furiously Happy.” Her honest and incredibly humorous portrayal of mental illness is on point. Whenever I’m feeling low, I reach for one of these books.
Celestine Prophecy
One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp
The Time Traveler’s Wife. So therapeutic. Also Anne of Green Gables…that helped me feel at home in a new place.
Anne helped me, too! I was 13 and felt so out of place in the world. She made me proud of being unique. Such a good character. As well as Mathew and Morelia
Sark’s books
A Broken Heart Still Beats
James Herriot’s books
A Tale of Two Cities
Thomas Merton writings, Wendell Berry Sabbath poetry, Rumi poetry
The Ocean At the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman
The Bible and books by C. S. Lewis
Victor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning
Yes
The Still Point of the Turning World.
Jane Eyre. A reminder to live with conviction gets me through every time.
Hyperbole and a Half, particularly the parts about depression. It was so spot on to how I felt depression was like
the diaries of anne morrow lindbergh
Gift From the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Oh my gosh…me too!
When Breath Becomes Air – after a friend of mine lost her battle with breast cancer
I would say most every one I’ve ever read saved me by transporting me to a different plane of consciousness, relieving me of daily humdrum and tedium!
The Outlander series. My best friend died of cancer and I dove into that series for months. It was an amazing escape. I still go back to it when stressed, like right now.
Mostly poetry by e.e. cummings or T.S. Eliot!
The Count of Monte Cristo. I had just lost my very young cousin. I couldn’t read, couldn’t listen to music, just couldn’t focus. I got my mind around a book…and this was it. My release from real life. I will never forget it.
Amen.
The Gift of Mourning Glories
Drinking, A Love Story, by Caroline Knapp, my relationship was breaking apart and this book gave me a glimpse into a struggle that I did not understand. I now own several copies of the same book and always have a copy to give away to another person that may be facing something similar
Jane Eyre, by Charlotte Bronte.
Crazy Love, after a very toxic relationship.
Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand. Louis Zamperini’s attitude of “You will not break me!” became my mantra during a difficult time.
Alive, the story of the Andes survivors. It gave perspective on what’s truly important.
This book was amazing.
Help, Thanks, Wow! by Anne Lamott
Anything by Anne Lamott
Surprisingly, it was “Les Miserables” because it was about people who were so much worse off than I was at the time. A book full of compassion and all the human emotions.
The Alchemist by Paulo Coleho and The Little Prince. Still both in my top 10 reads.
The Clown in the Belfry, Frederick Buechner
‘The valley of horses’ by Jane M. Auel ., it was the 2nd book in her Earth’s Children series—after the Clan of the Cave Bear.
The main character, Ayla, is alone in her valley and she survives well but is terribly lonely—it helped me process my own loneliness as well as appreciate friends and family even more ❤️
When Bad Things Happen to Good People, by Harold Kushner
Me too!
Me too.
As crazy as it sounds…The Twilight Series and Pride and Prejudice. I totally identified with the character relationships in the Twilight series. It really woke me up and helped me realize I was stringing my best guy friend along due to insecurities from a Bella/Edward type of relationship I had just gotten dumped from, and that wasn’t right. So I put some space and time between us. And Pride and Prejudice gave me my confidence and hope back. I have read that series and Pride and Prejudice (and all of Austen’s other books) so many times. I could have spent my life stuck on that “Edward” ex and sitting on the fence with or settling with his “Jacob” counterpart, but instead, I got my Darcy because I let go and I spent time just living my life.
God Went to Beauty School by Cynthia Rylant.
Still Alice really helped me see Alzheimer’s from my mom’s POV. I felt much more patient and understanding with her after that.
Siddhartha always touches me profoundly. Also Man’s Search for Meaning.
Untethered soul.
Unbroken, after reading this book, I vowed never to feel sorry for myself again, what a incredible inspiration Louie was. I have never been moved more .❤
All of them
Bridge to Terabithia by Katherine Paterson
Brave by Cheryl Strayed
The Chronology of Water-Lydia Yuknavitch.
Three Musketeers.
When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron
and for me, Awakening Loving- Kindness.
Embraced by the Light was a great help when I lost a child, and later the Edgar Cayce Handbook helped me reinvent myself. Both good.
Man’s Search for Meaning and The Alchemist
Harry Potter series
Veronika Decides to Die by Paulo Coelho
Stiff Upper Lip, Jeeves by P.G . Wodehouse was laugh out loud excellence when I was in a dark time.
Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy
A Monster Calls helped me deal with a family members death,very very good.
When Bad Things Happen to Good People ❤️
Most all of them.
Dr. Spock Baby and Child Care
I remember my mother had a dog eared copy of this book. I’m 72!!
Lessings Golden Notebook during divorcing and returning to University.
Tiger Eyes by Judy Blume
Gary Zukav, Seat of the Soul
The Bible
When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Rabbi Harold Kushner
Same here…
Recently I read, ‘The Painted Veil’ by Somerset Maugham. It helped me get over a dry spell where I was unable to read. The writing was so beautiful.
Option B by Cheryl Sandburg
Stephanie Plum series by Janet Evanovich.
Little women and secret garden helped me through a crummy childhood
Me too! It was comfort reading.
Me too! Secret Garden was a favorite when my abusive mother was too much to bear, I’d hide from her & disappear into this magical book!
I didn’t read “Little Women” until I bought the series for my daughter but loved them
The road less traveled, Scot Peck
No Reckoning Made
Anne of Green Gables, and I was in my mid-twenties
The Tightrope Walker by Dorothy Gilman. Got me through some mid 20s angst and reminded me to be myself.
When Breath Becomes Air
The Alchemist
Who Will Cry When You Die (nonfiction but life changing)
Eat Pray Love
When Breath Becomes Air
A stunning document.
The Little House series by Laura Ingalls Wilder. My comfort books for many years.
Final Gifts; not a novel; a memoir by two hospice nurses; short essays/stories about the “Final Gifts” loved ones leave.
The Janet Lambert series and then years later, Jan Karon’s Mitford series.
When I got into Mitford I can hardly wait for the next book to come out?
Perks of being a wallflower
My favorite!
Nurturing, Healing, Love by Scarlett Lewis and Jesus Calling by Sarah Young
Living Loving. and Learning by Leo Buscaglia
The Sea by John Banville helped me through the loss of my father and the Silver Witch and Oryx and Crake (fantasy to escape reality) for my mother’s death
The Bell Jar, believe it or not…
Great book
The Sorcerers Stone.
Both fiction and non-fiction by Debbie Macomber.
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen and funnily enough, Breakfast at Tiffany’s by Truman Capote.
A tree grows in Brooklyn during a period of youthful angst. It helped to connect with Francie and know I wasn’t alone.
Siddhartha = more than once
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The little @Prince
Forever by Pete Hamill and Pillars of the Earth / World Without End by Ken Follett
The Four Agreements
Anne Lamott’s Hallelujah, Anyway ❤️ Also, anything by Elizabeth Strout.
Loved Lamott’s Bird by Bird
Several books by Jess Lair, Ph.D., including “Ain’t I a Wonder…and Ain’t You a Wonder Too!”
Being You, Changing the World by Dr. Dain Heer.
Siddhartha
She’s Come Undone by Wally Lamb. I Never Promised You A Rose Garden during difficult teenage years….a long time ago…
Wally Lamb is wonderful. I think I have read all of his books. I can see how She’s Come Undone would help. Thank you for your post.
Have not read Wally Lamb. Will check it out.
@Heidi then I also recommend his other book, This Much I Know Is True. I loved that book too. But be aware he is a quirky writer and for as many who love his books, probably more are firmly on the other side. I say go in with an open mind and give him a try. For me, I have loved his books
@Catherine thanks for the advice. Books are great to open minds.
Anne of Green Gables and Little House on The Prairie series, many times over and over, most especially when my father passed away. The Bible is also my constant comfort.
For NY, I love Last of the Mohicans, and Deerslayer…the whole Leatherstocking tales are great!
Read Fenimore Cooper in H.S. — may need to take another look.
The Bible
The Matarese Circle by Robert Ludlum.
Oh wow — forgot about this one. Read this one ages ago — couldn’t put it down. Need to dig it out. Thanks for the reminder.
for Maine, I love Elizabth Ogilvie. You learn the lives of the fishermen
Great question, by the way!
Pride and Prejudice every time.
In order of reading over a period of 20 years experiencing the loss of loved ones and then my health- The Road Less Travelled (Peck) When Bad Things Happen To Good People ( Kushner) , The Four Agreements (Ruiz) How to Be Sick (Toni Bernhard) and lastly When Things Fall Apart (Pema Chodron)
Beautiful choices.
The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck.
If You Feel Too Much (TWLOHA) by Jamie Tworkowski
The Bible.
Voltaire’s Candide taught me that the world can be a hard place, so it’s important to cultivate my own garden.
Also, one hard summer when I was young, I read and re-read all of Louisa May Alcott’s books many, many, many times.
Candide!
My book club read Voltaire — we had great discussion.
I read Candide every year for a decade ~ it’s such an important message for a happy life!
@Barbara I loved reading Candide in high school. You are right ~ I must read it again!
The Prophet by Khalil Gibran
My mother’s favorite.
@Heidi a friend gave me a copy over 50 years ago. I have since given several copies to friends over the years.
Tuesday’s with morrie. Great way to view life, dying and death.
The Hobbit. I had the recoding by Nicol Williams. I listened to it at night, to let go of my worries at the time. Never failed me.
Audio books are so great sometimes!
The bible
Believe it or not “The Lovely Bones” after my mother died it gave me peace to know that there was a connection but life and death.
Bible
Love, Medicine and Miracles by Bernie Siegel.
Tuesdays with Morrie
Divorce for Dummies.?
Boundaries by Cloud & Townsend
And of course nothing like God & His Word to speak to you in a tough place. Psalms especially healing & helpful.
Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
This book was life changing for me.
Friend just read this after the passing of her Mom.
A Grace Disguised
I picked up this book a while ago. I know I need to read it this summer.
Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl
A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis
Need to get some C.S. Lewis — he’s showing up a lot in this group.
The Yellow Wallpaper !
Agree with you about The Yellow Wallpaper. What an astoundingly accurate story!
@Nancy astounding is the right word.
The Four agreements. Helped me through job changes.
Father Melancholy’s Daughter
The Alchemist -Paulo Coelho
The Man of Property and Swan Song by John Galsworthy.
Love Galsworthy!!
I read the entire saga every decade since the 1960s and watch both TV series on DVD.
Yes, I’ve seen both series as well. There is also another trilogy focusing on Fleur’s cousins in laws, she makes appearances, especially in the 8th novel. Trilogy is called End of The Chapter, it’s decent, but what you must read if you haven’t is On Change, a collection of short stories about the family that fills in gaps of time and also tells the stories of the older Forysthes. The story set in WWI is especially fantastic.
Did not particularly care for the other trilogy but may give it another chance!
Yeah, I wasn’t impressed with Books 7-9, either. But that short story collection On Change is a must-read!!
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn
The Bible.
Lord of the rings and after the wreck, i picked myself, dusted myself off, spread my wings, and flew away
The Road Less Traveled. It helped me tremendously when going through a painful divorce many years ago.
Catherine Marshall’s ‘Beyond Ourselves’ & most all her books.
This Too Shall Pass
She’s Come Undone
Me too
Every book I read from 1992-1996
So Long Insecurity by Beth Moore
The Gaslight Effect by Robin Stern
The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Dideon
The Power of Now
Wine at the End of the Feast
Peaceful warrior by Dan Millman.
that is also a great movie now
Just heard this book recommended on a podcast.
@Heidi I found the book harder to get through because I watched the movie first. Try the book first then the movie to see if it makes sense. Its all in interpretation to my mind. Strongly recommend it. I watch the movie over and over again.
@Kelly Thanks for the recommendation.
No worries. I’m sure lots of people will enjoy it
The Color Purple
The Bible, Roomies by Christina Lauren
Richard Paul Evans’ Walking Series
A million little pieces-isn’t that ironic with the controversy that surrounds it? I read it before that all came to light. It was a great book.
Backstories are sometimes as good as the books!
I liked the book for what it was even though there was some background drama. But I still like Milli Vanilli too! LOL
ME TOO! HA!
She’s Come Undone
One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest as a teen AND The Artist’s Way, a Spiritual Guide to Creativity as an adult.
The Goldfinch, which reminds you that your own life is pretty good compared to the main character’s!
You Are A Badass
10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found a Self-Help That Actually Works–A True Story
Anna Karenina
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance.
At Home in Mitford.
The Courage to Heal
The Book of Ruth by Jane Hamilton
Why Bad Things Happen to Good People
Tuesday with Morrie
All of them.
Acceptance: The Way to Serenity and Peace of Mind, by Vincent Paul Collins
Going to school and reading were my refuge as a child living in an alcoholic, chaotic family. Books were my escape and my dearest friends. So all of them. Now, I have a very contented and stable life with a wonderful husband and family. They are my pleasure in life in addition to my faith and family.
I didn’t grow up in an alcoholic household, but I was troubled in other ways. Books were my refuge, and the library was my sanctuary.
Always and forever. The Bible. God’s word to His people.
That was my answer! ❤️
In college a dear friend died in a car accident, then every week or so my best friend and I would have another death occur of friends or family. One of the guys gave me his copy of The Prophet and it got me through that time….and in my depression I became a stewardess, trained in sunny Miami in Jan.-Feb., made great friends, was stationed in New York and found new confidence and joy.
I loved The Prophet as a teen. Helped me through abuse and depression.
Have you read Gibran’s The Beloved? Very good.
@Diane yes, long ago?
The Places That Scare You, by Pema Chodron.
Women who Run with the Wolves.
The Bible, Power of Positive Thinking, Simple Path by Mother Teresa and 5 Minutes With Jesus by Sheila Walsh.
The Poisonwood Bible
The Myth of Sisyphus and Other Essays by Albert Camus
When my mother passed away, I read Sophie Kinsella’s Shopaholic series – 3 books at the time. Confessions of a Shopaholic, Shopaholic Abroad, and Shopaholic Ties The Knot. They were happy stories and I needed that at the time. Got me through the days.
If he can go through this, I can handle just about anything!
I can’t wait to read this.
@Becky one awesome man!
Excellent book.
Kristi Serven Cunningham
Becky Jackson
I would also recommend reading Just Mercy by Mr Hinton’s attorney, Bryan Stephenson. One of the best books I have read. We read it in my book club two years ago.
How Did I Get Here by Barbara @DeAngelis
I always reread Narnia. All seven.
Fear of Flying by Erica Jong it was printed in the 70s. I was going thru a bad divorce. And you may take it for granted now, but it was very empowering for women then. Totally amazing book
Read Flying 1st year in college — had no idea what I was reading but yes, it made me feel like an empowered woman — though I was just a clueless kid!
@Heidi I was the same! Back then those things just weren’t talked about. But, this book opened up many conversations.
Books by Dave Pelzer, A Child Called “It” and other autobiographical books in that series. Talk about resilience after years of shocking abuse and neglect!
Every one!
All of them!!!
Good Grief — a tiny little book but enormously comforting
Tuesdays with Morrie and Morrie in his own words.
You’ll Get Through This by Max Lucado
Tuesday with Morrie helped me not feel so sad when my husband died.
Anything by Anne Lamont
She always makes me laugh!
me,too
Which should I read first?
Outlander
I have not read any of the Gabaldon series… but maybe it’s time.
Heidi K. Weber. It’s time. I too was a late comer to the series, but I almost envy you as you’ll be reading them for the first time. Most of us are on our Nth time reading, over and over. ??❤️
#truth! Heidi you will be so glad you did!! Welcome to our world ?
Anything written by Alice Walker
Darkness Visible by William Styron. Great insights into depression.
Absolutely wonderful book! Really helped me…
Any of the Mitford series by Jan Karon.
The Bible.
Journal of a Solitude – May Sarton
The Wrinkle in time by Madeline L’Engle, and Communion By Bell Hooks
The Torah!
Psalms and John, Holy Bible
Your Erroneous Zones by Dr.John Dwyer.
*Wayne Dyer
Eat Pray @Love
Never read EPL but really enjoyed Big Magic. Eliz Gilbert always reminds me in tone and style of Brene Brown — who I’ve found can be very grounding during tough times.
Read Eat Pray Love. One of the best books ever
Gift from the Sea. Anne Murrow Lindbergh. Sweet little book.
yes!!
A 100 pieces of me.
My favorite book series is The Lord of the Rings.
Cormac McCarthy books. The Road was the first book I read after my divorce.
Amen for me it’s the book of John , New Testament
The Tao of Pooh
Just books…they take me away for awhile and let me be someone else. I see it as a type of meditation as you are focused on the text and hopefully nothing else.
Amen.
The Alchemist
My Year With Eleanor by Noelle Hancock. Its about being brave in the face if hardship. The inspiration is Eleanor Roosevelt and how she overcame her many challenges.
The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists
Memoirs. Connecting as a human being.
The Diary of Anne Frank
Loved Tao of Pooh
Te of Piglet was pretty good too.
Into The Wild by Jon Krakaur
To Kill A Mockingbird
Loved To Kill a Mocking bird book and also the movie with Gregory Peck.
Wish I could give a copy to every young teen
Paper Moon when a child. Too young to recognize some of the tough realities of this book but loved Addie Pray and how clever she was. That novel was more like a naughty (childlike naughty) friend that kept me company. I read it over and over.
This book was given to me as a gift when I lived in Italy. I loved it. Then we moved to the US. I was 11 years old. The first year and a half was so tough. I was terribly homesick and cried every day and this book was my consolation. The protagonists, two orphan sisters, went through rough times and overcame adversity to find happiness. Their story gave me hope that some day life would get better for me too and that I would feel happy again. I read the story over and over and always carried the book with me and of course it is still in my book shelf.
The Story of My Life by Helen Keller.
I remember as a kid watching the Helen Keller movie with Patty Duke and Anne Bancroft and being captivated. (I know – I’m dating myself!)
Stick a Geranium in your hat and be happy really helped through a hard time. It’s by Barbara Johnson
God Never Blinks
Gift from the Sea.
I got this from my parents as a graduation present from high school, and I have reread it so many times when I need to be centered. I even have a quote from it in my classroom.
The Host- not that it was meaningful, but I listened to it while my dad was dying and it took my mind away for periods.
Dear Barbara, Dear Lynne when I felt like I was the only one who was having trouble conceiving. I am now the proud mom of two teenagers. It was many moons ago, but a very difficult time and sharing the journey with these two strangers through their letters helped me know I was not alone
Beautifully said — the journeys books allow us to share.
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath
When bad things happen to good people. & On a Pale Horse…. when I couldn’t reconcile a death they helped me gain views to survive with.
Hinds Feet in High Places
Living a Life of Gratitude. My copy is so old I re read it and put the date by it every time. <3
A Grief Observed by CS Lewis. Also Good Grief by Granger Westberg.
Pride and Prejudice and other books of this era
Austen is sooooo good for so many things!
Heidi…absolutely.
Hospitality by Henri Nouwen
The Shack
Dementia.
I read Helen Keller as a teen.
Later saw the movie.
Love the books better than movies because I can use my own imagination
All of them.
The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen and Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Keneally’s Schindler’s Ark, book that Schindler’s List was made into a movie from, but not sure if this is the title, read it long ago, love all Keneally’s work
It took me away from problems I was dealing with at the time.
I had a tough teenage years so The Catcher In The Rye was my escape
I know this much is true by Wally Lamb. My Uncle, who was schizophrenic for over 60 years asked me to read this book so that I could better understand his malady. I encouraged many of my family members to also read it and it gave us a better perspective of his life.
One of my favorite books!!
@Kaye awesome!
A wonderful book, I agree.
The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. It has briught me comort many, many times over the years.
The Prophet by Gibran
@Diane One of my most treasured books. A friend gave it to me over 50 years ago and it has comforted me so many times throughout my life. It is my constant companion. I have also given numerous copies to friends over the years.
Honestly, all of the Harry Potter series!
Harry Potter Series
The Art of Racing in the Rain gave me a lot of strength. The quotes in that book helped me make it another day when I was suddenly widowed. It was my support network and I learned how to race in the rain.
Wonderful book…i’ve read it twice…it’s a keeper.
I just happened upon one of the best books I’ve ever read yesterday. It’s called Found by Micha Boyett. I got it at the library and found it’s on sale for .99 at http://christianbook.com/ through tomorrow. I bought one for me and multiple copies for Christmas presents.
The Road Less Traveled by Scott Pack. While going through a divorce I needed something spiritually uplifting.
@Adelle made a changing influence in my life
When Things Fall Apart (Heart Advise in Difficult Times) by Pema Chodron
intesting ideas
Refuge by Terri Tempest Williams
Night, Elie Wiesel. I was in a dark and angry place when I read this book. I learned to forgive and let go of that anger. It changed my life.
Amy and Isabelle by Elizabeth Strout
My book was entitled
“Mom & Dad” ❤❤
“This House of Brede” by Rumor Godden.
@Sally, I love this book!
When I needed it, it was a story of a woman following her deepest instincts and transforming herself. (Just came to that realization). The book lived on my table next to where I sat. Immediately I finished it, I would start it over. Calm and peaceful inspite of the things happening within the abbey.
@Sally, that’s a perfect description. My daughter tracked down an out-of-print edition as my Christmas gift last year. Thrilled!
I love her books one of my favorites an episode of sparrows
Power of Positive Thinking
The Bible
A Women of Substance by Barbara Taylor Bradford.
probably her best work…..
Also Evergreen by Belva Plain…
Final Gifts
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown.
One More Day. I lost my son and thought I wanted one more day.
Thanks, it’s a great book. The title drew me in and I knew of Tuesday’s with Morrie. It helped but not the way you would think. It actually had nothing to my situation but afterwards I knew one more day would never be enough. ❤️❤️
Gotta say the best book, The Bible. It always has just the right message I need.
Outlander
It got me through the death of my husband by a drunk driver
The Outlander series got me through the death of my daughter 3 years ago
Paulo Coelho’s “Veronika Decides to Die” ??
Two books: Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander. I had started reading this book just before my father died in Jan 1993 and afterward when I could concentrate on books again I picked this back up and was totally engrossed. 2nd book Also right after this I started reading the Lord of the Rings series as I wanted some sort of total escapism.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I know what you mean about not being able to concentrate and read. ❤️
I reread the Lord of the Rings when I need to escape too!!
The Shack by Young. Pema Chodron. The Book of Job. The Way.
I will add to my list. Thank you.
The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
One True Thing by Anna Quindlen.
Loved that book!
Boundaries
Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane @Moriarty
Oops, I intended this for a different question. ?
the art of racing in the rain, narrated by a dog who studies his humans, its WONDERFUL from the first page
The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.
Bible, Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer
Motherless Daughters, Tales of a Fouth Grade Nothing
The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls
“When bad things happen to good people” H. Kushner; “radical acceptance” Tara Brasch
I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou and The Roadless Traveled? ❤️
The Other Side of the Mountain, Jill Kinmont story
The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah, after becoming a widow, adjusting to circumstances out of my control. Plus, great Historical Fiction, connecting some dots for me. How did average women survive WWII?
@Bonnie – my thoughts exactly after reading The Nightingale and Lilac Girls. I just cannot imagine what day to day living must have been like?
@Bonnie agree with your comments and @Debbie also
The Prophet by Gibran
Harry Potter books because I was able to escape what was ailing me.
Object Lessons by Anna Quindlen
@Linda , Anna Quindlen will be our guest in Peters Township, south of Pittsburgh, on Thursday November 7,2019 as a guest of The Peters Township Library Foundation. Check back in the summer when ticket sales will go live. http://ptlibrary.org/
Travel memoir: Beauty Tips from Moose Jaw & Last Chance To See.
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17607
Gift from the Sea by Anne Lindberg
@Dyanna I so love this book. Through the years, I have given copies to those who are going through tough times.
Compassion and Self Hate by Theodore Issac Ruben
Siddhartha
The Road Less Traveled by Scot Peck
The Mitford Series by Jan Karon
@Patty I loved that series and would
wait impatiently for every new book to come out?
@Janet me too!
Daily worship prayers,I would read before my prayers…..
The Lucia and Mapp series by E. F. Benson.
When Bad Things Happen to Good People. It really helped me after my first husband died.
Mine too, after my sister was murdered. I have bought and given this book to at.least 15 people who have lost loved ones over the years.
@Michele I love this book. Harold Kushner is one of my favorite authors.
@Carolyn oh, I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.
@Michele I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.
@Donna , thank you.
He has written so many wonderful, inspiring books. Another one I love is The Lord Is My Shepard: Healing Wisdom of the Twenty-Third Psalm. As a Christian, I thought I understood the 23rd Psalm but after reading this book I realized I didn’t. Harold Kushner’s experience as a Rabbi and his knowledge of Hebrew allows him to explain this Psalm fully. I have given copies of this book to my family and friends. One of his books on my to-read-list is How Good Do We Have To Be? A New Understanding if Guilt and Forgiveness.
@Carolyn I have always wanted to meet Harold Kushner.
@Donna, thank you for this.
@Donna thank you. It was 30 years ago, but I still remember the comfort that book brought me. I didn’t know that Kushner wrote other books. I’ll have to keep that in mind for future reference. @Carolyn I am so sorry about your sister.
@Michele yes, he has written several.
@Michele , thank you. I am sorry for your loss.
It changed my entire paradigm.
The Five People You Meet in Heaven
Great Personal Power
Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman
@Caroline I have not read this but in the recesses of my my mind, I believe I have heard of it. Is it fact or fiction? I can see what I think is obvious, but could you maybe expand with a sentence or two, please?
@Jill it’s nonfiction. The author lost her mom at 17 and was looking for a book about dealing with that particular loss. When she couldn’t find one, she wrote a book about her own experiences of growing into adulthood and being an adult without her mother.
@Caroline Thank you, Caroline. I will probably read it at some point. ♡
I enjoyed the L.M. Alcott books so much when I was young.
The Shack
Loved it.
The Last Lecture, by Randy Pausch.
@Carolyn My brother-in-law died of pancreatic cancer before the author was diagnosed and wrote the book. My BIL (my sister’s hubby) was like by big brother-they were married when I was six. It was a few years before I could read the book but what an incredible book and what an incredible person Randy Pausch was. It was slow reading for me because I cried through many parts and I am crying now as I write this. It is a very personal and very touching book.
@Donna , my dad died of pancreatic cancer after Randy Pausch wrote the book. It was very personal to me too. It’s about time for me to re-read it.
@Carolyn I am sorry that you lost your Dad. Pancreatic cancer is one of the many terrible diseases. I don’t think I can read the book again, tho. I did see the film. His widow, Jai, wrote a book after his death, Dream New Dreams: Reimagining My Life After Loss. I read her book after losing my husband 3 1/2 years ago. At the time the book was published, she had remarried.
@Donna , I will read this.
@Carolyn some of the reviews on her book weren’t positive. My husband died unexpectedly in a very tragic accident and after the shock wore off about 6 months later, I read several books on widowhood and hers was one.
@Donna . I see. Each person must walk her own journey. I am so sorry for your loss.
@Carolyn that is true. Thank you.
@Carolyn thank goodness for books! I have a coffee mug that my mother-in-law gave my husband years ago. It says, “I cannot live without books.”
-Thomas Jefferson-
(It says “Monticello” at the top)
@Donna , I always read a ton of books on any given subject, and am glad they are available.
@Carolyn I love books! I am retired now and I am so grateful that I have so much more time to read after working full-time for 47 years!
@Donna , my aunt does that. I am envious.
@Carolyn it was a long journey!
@Carolyn a friend and I have been in a local book club but it became too political. My friend and I want to
discuss books not politics. I took my grandkids to a puppet show last night at my local library and one of the librarians there was telling me about a book club at a nearby branch during the day so I am going to check that out tomorrow.
Nice chatting with you.
@Donna , good luck with the new book club. It was nice chatting with you too.
@Carolyn thanks! ?
Plath’s “The Bell Jar”
The Curious Charms of George Pepper is about a man whose wife dies and he spends the first year despondent. The discovery of a charm bracelet leads him on a mission to discover the meaning of the charms and helps him find his value
Oops! The correct title is “The Curious Charms of Arthur Pepper”
Grace and Grit Ken @Wilber
Hope and Help for Your Nerves, by Dr. Claire Weekes.
My way through is escape reading MC Beaton , Agatha Christie ,Mary Roberts Rinehart, Louise Penny, Rosemund Pilcher
I think books save my sanity every day. It’s hard to name just one.
The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings. I would walk in the woods with a walking stick wishing I could be on a journey with them! In high school you have a lot to think about!
I didn’t have just one book, but Stephen King’s books always kept me so captivated, that I was able to step away from whatever sadness had come upon me, even for a short period of time!
Jeri Milemon Enjoy, he’s such a great story teller, what an imagination!
Secret Garden
Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine
@Dana, just finished listening to this on audible. What an interesting book!
@Jan Yes it was! I did the audible too! Eleanor absolutely captured my heart this year.
They can provide entertainment, escape, involvement, information, intellectual growth and stimulation, as well as the same emotionally and spiritually, if they are of enough substance and worth in those venues.
Reading the Christmas Train. ?
Prayer…Bible reading
Al-Anon literature
@Cheryl that too!!!!
The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran
The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
This is How by Augusten Burroughs
My summer of chemotherapy treatments were spent reading several of the Mitford Series books by Jan Karon. They were good medicine.
@Gretchen hope you are doing well now.
@Janet, very well, thank you. That was many years ago, but those books will always be special to me.
The Other Side of The Mountain by Jill Kinmont. I was feeling sorry for myself moving to a new town. That book helped me get out of myself.
@Mary I remember reading that book when it was published after I graduated from high school. It is an amazing story about an amazing survivor. I do know that there is a second book but I haven’t read it.
The Gift of an Ordinary Day
Mary Oliver poems ❤️
The Fault in our Stars!
“Time Enough For Love.”
The Edgar Cayce Handbook
As a pre-teen I loved “The Cat Ate My Gymsuit” by Paula Danziger. I totally identified with Marcy Lewis, the main character.
Cancer Ward by Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn.
Also, Carrie did wonders for getting me through high school
Lucky by Jackie Collins. I had to deal with school district for IEP Meeting 28 yrs ago. My son has adhd. Needed to get some kickass, courage
@Mary just finished first book. Loved it.
The Hour I First Believed – Wally Lamb. The message really resonated with me when I was struggling to make it on my own.
@Leianne …love!!!
@Rita You are LITTERALLY yhe only person to know who Wally Lamb is. ?
@Leianne …really? Have you read his real book when he worked with women in prison in NY?
@Rita Yes! Both of them! I love them! I read Wishin and a Hopin last christmas which was so much fun and I was estatic to read We Are Water a few years back. I wish he would put out another novel.
I will check this one out asap because I AM a Wally Lamb fan!
‘Finding Your Own North Star,’ Martha Beck
The Prayer of Jabez by Bruce Wilkinson…”Oh, that you would bless me indeed…” Changed my life…
Hi Outlander read the next two you ‘ll love it even more , please post more soon. HAppy Holidays . LOving Outlander.
The Mitford Series was my happy place for my husband’s last year of residency.
@Karen excellent series…
@Karen I have heard from a good friend that it’s wonderful and charming!❤
@Jill it is.
Simple Abundance
Barbara Kingsolver – High Tide in Tucson essay; The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion; The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck;