Any idea to make man understand that books are not a waste of time or money?
Any idea to make man understand that books are not a waste of time or money?
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Books make me happy. Is my happiness a waist of time an money?
It’s your money. Books make me happy too. I love reading. I read more than I watch TV.
But if you’re interested, there are many ways now days to borrow books, read them, then send them back. Amazon. Libby (library ebook borrowing- same as “taking out” a book from the library. And it’s free!)
Tell him he’s a waste of time and money.
^ literally all of the above.
Good luck
Ask him what makes his hobbies/interests not a waste of time or money. If he says something like “I enjoy it” just say that’s how you feel about reading
Ahahahah
Well good advice. 🙂
Good luck! If that doesnt work just punch him in the face ?
Hahahahahaha. O ya I’ll do it.
Divorce
Then spend your alimony on books.
Thank god I married a college professor.
Goals!!!!
Thank god I’m not married ?
Grad school!
Jokes aside, I would explain using the analogy of different learning styles, how some people are visual learners, some prefer textbooks, some have to see it in person. Then transition it to entertainment. Ask what his favorite movie is, then tell him what your favorite book is. Explain that in the same way people’s minds work differently to develop a preference for learning style, some people prefer to experience their stories through books instead of movies and that your preference is in a book.
Man as in mankind? Or one specific man?
My significant other understands they are important to me and enjoys hearing about what I’m learning.
I have turned down many men based on my deal breaker I classify as “Barely Literate.” Idc if he was a hip hop dancer and ex-stripper. Pretty doesn’t get very far with me.
Thank Goodness for my husband! He honestly loves buying me books as much as I love getting them. He says he knows books make me happy. ?
You’re so lucky having a man like that.:)
@Dionne I’m truly blessed♡
?? ummm if you embrace what he loves to do because I’m certain he’s into something that you may not ? like or care about, then he should do the same for you. My man loves to play video games. And I’ve learned to embrace it & let him be. Not only that, when he’s busy into his video game, it means I’m free to read my book. #compromiseiskey
True
Does he like movies? Remind him that a lot of great movies were books.
Books teach you things.
Books let you see into other worlds/cultures/etc. without ever having to leave your home.
He’s into practicality but he loves motorcycle.
Well some may say that motorcycles are a waste of time and money. What hobbies suit one may not interest another. To you it’s entertaining and valuable, and that should be enough for him. ?
If a man truly loves you, nothing that makes you happy is a waste of time and money. The ridiculous things my husband has spent his hard earned money on for me, I could tell you stories! In the last month he’s bought me books, an indoor bonsai palm tree, and we are about to buy a clownfish…. ? ask him what a reasonable price for your happiness is… I guess that’s one way to find out what he thinks of you.
Oh he’s so sweet. Well I’ll ask him tho.
Tell him his beer is a waste of money! ? Fortunately, even though my husband doesn’t read, he never says this to me except jokingly!
My dad used to try and tell me I was wasting my money on books. One day I got fed up and turned around and said “what would you rather I waste it on? Drugs? Condoms?” and that shut him up pretty fast lol
Find a different man
First not all of us are like that. I love buying books
He doesn’t need to understand. You support each other’s passions.
Gift him a book of the genre he likes the most and get many books in return once you get him addicted to it?
I buy books with my own money so nobody has any say about it.
I explained to my husband tjat we all have different hobbies, he collects bass guitars and i have books. He shut up immediately. Since his hobby is more expensive. If ur man doesnt u derstand that one important fact then time to ponder if he is the right one.
My man loves motorcycles and I love books. I support him and his not into my happiness.
My man loves to read. In fact he reads more than me
Library
That fixes the money issue but not the time issue. And she may not live in an area with a library.
I love books as much as my wife, help him to find what he will like to read. I believe there’s something out there for everybody. And he’ll understand the obsession when he becomes obsessed himself ?
Honestly you look very young in your picture. So if you are and are not married to him, chalk this up as a learning experience and get rid of him. He obviously doesn’t respect you to say something like this. And it IS a respect issue. If someone said my books were a waste of time and money I would be extremely offended. Someone who has a limited point of view like that isn’t someone I could deal with. There are many things my husband enjoys that I do not but I would never tell him they are basically worthless. I encourage him to do things that he enjoys even if it’s not my thing. That’s what mature loving people do. Kick him to the curb! You are beautiful and don’t need that negative energy. You can find a much better suited man for you!
I buy from Thriftbooks or loans from the library. My husband sees I only buy books I’ll reread or because the library didn’t have it so he’s pretty chill about it.
New man?
That’s the way I’d go…
Different man….I was married to one of those…he limited how many books I could read….he also beat me.
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Find a different man.
This is why I have books and not a man!
As of today this is my situation and I think I will like it!!!!
Cut off his cable. After all, it’s a waste of time and money. ?
Even Stephen! No books for me, no ESPN for you! ~ Now What?!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201701/11-warning-signs-gaslighting?page=3
Just got out of a relationship where this was happening. He was literally taking me back to where I was a few years ago. Almost to the point of suicide. I wouldn’t wish this on anybody.
In other words, dump him as soon as possible. It is not your task to make anyone so thick to try to understand anything.
Get a Kindle and order online – he will never know lol
Dump him. He doesn’t take you seriously and respect your hobbies or opinions. You shouldn’t have to convince him
If he loves you he will find a way to understand.
Compare it to his entertainment- for example, I spend less on books AND knitting than my husband’s cable bill…
u owe him no explanation.
If they think that, they don’t deserve a single one and apparently their minds became unhinged long ago…
The alternative is to talk. About feelings.
Get a new man
I’m so very sorry for you. ?
Any man that needs to try to exercise such control over you has got to be terribly insecure.
Limits how many books you can read? Seriously?
How Pathetic…
You can do better ?
You either get it or you don’t
Equate it to sports. Books bring joy to women as sports bring joy to men..we cheer our characters on as you cheer on your athletes and teams..we both want a happy ending..for your team and the main character!????⚾️⚽️?️♂️?️♀️??
I really couldn’t live with someone who bothered me about my books. And I’m being totally serious. My pets and my kids and my books. Don’t like any of those three? There’s the door.
Compare to his collection of tools, golf clubs, sports memorabilia, etc.
Get ear plugs. Or hand him the TV remote & tell himself to go nuts