Depends. If it’s a friends birthday then it’s rude. If it’s a child’s party and your an adult I say go for it. They can be soooo boring and are only fun for the kids lol.
It’s a childs Birthday party and all the adults are sitting around on their phones. The kids are watching the performance or in the bounce house. The party is for my cousins kids.
If your cousin is busy with the kids and you have no adults to talk to then yes read! But if there are other adult family members there you should probably try to talk with them for a while first then go to a corner later and read once you’ve been social for a while.
If it is not your birthday and you are not central to the party, you may as well read, though I usually bring short story collections to parties so I can pause at the end of each story to socialize briefly and refill my drink.
Yes. Yes it is. I’ve wanted to before, but have never actually done it. One option, though.. if you have a kindle, get the kindle app on your phone and you can read from there without looking too suspicious!! Everyone stares at their phones these days! Lol
Yes, it is very rude. If you’re that bored, thank the hostess, make your excuses, and quietly leave. I also don’t allow people to use their cell phones in my house unless it is to look up something specific to a current discussion.
I adore reading and wish I could pull a book out at social events but I don’t because it is rude. I’d not go or leave rather than start reading at a party or social event
I wouldn’t do it with a BOOK book but I see no problem pulling my phone out and reading on my kindle app. I’m going to an event tonight where I just do this! You never know!
Hahahahaha I have had to ask myself this question at many different places. One is at my son’s school music performances. They can be so long and terribly boring. I wouldn’t read during his group’s performance but the other grades. So I finally got a book on my phone and it’s not as noticeable.
This reminds me of my high school years—I would put my book inside my science binder during class and pretend I’m reading the lesson or whatever. This is how I finished HP atPoA.
Are you at your house, or did you go to someone else’s home with your book in your bag? If it was at someone else’s place, I would think it rude; however, if it were your place, just leave it on a table or something and if someone says something, then you can present your book.
I did today at my nieces 12th. b-day party, my SIL’S side of the family aren’t friendly with us and they sit in one room and we sit in another, and no one else was at the party so I read while I waited for my niece to open her presents!! ??♀️ it was better than staring at the wall!!!
I want to add, given that most people stare into their phones even when on a date, it’s maybe the Zeitgeist, but I think there’s no point in meeting people or having a party, when everyone dives into their virtual reality. But … it’s not offensive when people are like-minded I guess. It’s just me who doesn’t like it, that’s all.
Yes. Even if you’re just masking social anxiety or overwhelmed by all the activity going on around you, other guests will interpret your taking out a book and reading to mean that they bore you and are not worth your time or attention.
It’s the same as if you weren’t feeling sociable, had a headache or were simply ready to go home. If you’re unable to make your excuses and leave (someone else is driving, for example), find a room where you can be alone.
If you can’t stay in the moment, then leave. Someone invited you to a party, and maybe the greatest gift to give…is to give them your time. You can always read later….the book will always be there…but maybe the person who is celebrating a birthday…won’t!
Mine wasn’t a physical book, but an e-reader. At my great-nephews bowling party yesterday. I was bored and because of the way things were set up, I couldn’t get to the alleys to bowl. (I’m in a wheelchair and this place wasn’t very wheelchair friendly) I’m not a person that complains of things aren’t going my way. That’s part of life. So, no it’s not wrong. It’s no worse than pulling out your phone, reading Facebook. In my opinion.
Chaperoning a middle school dance, I had a young man pull out his book, sit down by the wall, turn on his book light, and read the entire 3 hours of the dance. When parents came in to pick him up, he had asked me to say that I ‘had seen him focused and engaged during the entire party!’
Poor kid!! I understand that parents want their kids to experience things, but if he didn’t want to go and would’ve been happier at home reading, listen to him and don’t force him to go. ? I have 3 teenagers. They have 3 distinctly different personalities. I know sometimes we have to push them past their comfort zones to help them spread their wings, but it sounds like this kid wasn’t really into spreading his wings. lol!!
@Waynette , you’re exactly right! (Our son never went to a dance, and he is a successful computer engineering today). I learned how painful it was for some kids, and I did tell the parents I had seen their son several times during the dance and that he looked happy. At one point, two others sat down with him and were ‘just there’, too. Poor kids! Success isn’t always determined in the same way for every child!
@Mary EXACTLY!! My favorite quote ever is “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its entire life believing that it’s stupid.” Albert Einstein. ❤️
Depends. If it’s a child’s party and you’re a parent/chauffeur it might be ok. But if it’s an adult family member or friend then, unless everyone is reading, yes. People are important too.
Ha! My people! I’m an only child so my mom always packed a book and toys so I could always entertain myself. To this day I pack a book, a crochet project or a bible study everywhere I go.
Yes hahaha
Get an audiobook and a small wireless ear bud. Pull your hair over your ear and listen on the sly.
It’s not rude if you’te hiding yourself in the closet
If people pull out their smartphones, then you just go ahead and pull out your book! 😉
How about at a wedding?
?♀️
Yes sorry. If you are at a function be there.
Lol
Depends. If it’s a friends birthday then it’s rude. If it’s a child’s party and your an adult I say go for it. They can be soooo boring and are only fun for the kids lol.
Depends on your relationship to the people having/ the party.
I’ve done it?not at parties but visits. I’ve left people to talk and just pulled out a book or opened my kindle app?
I’m about to do that in a few minutes xD xD
dont go there if you dont want to ..its less rude than being there if you dont feel like it
Why not people pull out their phones.
Sold!
Or get the apps for the phone and no one would even suspect
Yes!
No
Yes, or so I’ve been told. But I’m not social, going to some family events was expected of me and I’d rather read than watch football.
It’s a childs Birthday party and all the adults are sitting around on their phones. The kids are watching the performance or in the bounce house. The party is for my cousins kids.
I would say it’s not ok to be rude just coz others are… But audiobooks with earbuds should be okay!
If your cousin is busy with the kids and you have no adults to talk to then yes read! But if there are other adult family members there you should probably try to talk with them for a while first then go to a corner later and read once you’ve been social for a while.
Oh, the times I wished I had a book at a party…
No
If it is not your birthday and you are not central to the party, you may as well read, though I usually bring short story collections to parties so I can pause at the end of each story to socialize briefly and refill my drink.
Yes .. I think yes.
Not if you do it discreetly ?
Yes. Yes it is. I’ve wanted to before, but have never actually done it. One option, though.. if you have a kindle, get the kindle app on your phone and you can read from there without looking too suspicious!! Everyone stares at their phones these days! Lol
Nope
Nope
I wouldn’t
Yes, it is very rude. If you’re that bored, thank the hostess, make your excuses, and quietly leave. I also don’t allow people to use their cell phones in my house unless it is to look up something specific to a current discussion.
I adore reading and wish I could pull a book out at social events but I don’t because it is rude. I’d not go or leave rather than start reading at a party or social event
I have done it
Not if it’s more interesting than the party 😉
I did it at my brothers wedding. Thats how I party. ??
I wouldn’t do it with a BOOK book but I see no problem pulling my phone out and reading on my kindle app. I’m going to an event tonight where I just do this! You never know!
Hahahahaha I have had to ask myself this question at many different places. One is at my son’s school music performances. They can be so long and terribly boring. I wouldn’t read during his group’s performance but the other grades. So I finally got a book on my phone and it’s not as noticeable.
I’m at a birthday party right now.
It is and so is pulling your phone out
pretty much
Yes. Find a reason to go home so you can read ?
Yes
I’ve wondered this myself! ??
Depends who it’s for!!! ?
Yes
Probably but so many times i wish i had done just yhat
Honestly no unless it’s a close family member or friend
If you’re worried read on your phone.
Not even me could do that! ?
A little yeah?
Done it myself many times, along with any other family function I have to go to.
I believe it is
The party is over, and I did not pull out my book. I’m not driving though, so I’m reading on the way home.
Never
I’ve done it
Yes. Yes, it is.
Yes. I would come up with a reason to leave early & go home & read. ?
This reminds me of my high school years—I would put my book inside my science binder during class and pretend I’m reading the lesson or whatever. This is how I finished HP atPoA.
Oh, such lovely memories…
Lovely indeed ?
Depends on whose party.
Me, at every social event.
Yes
Kinda sorta
Yeah, I wouldn’t do it
Are you at your house, or did you go to someone else’s home with your book in your bag? If it was at someone else’s place, I would think it rude; however, if it were your place, just leave it on a table or something and if someone says something, then you can present your book.
The party was outdoors at a park.
No
My whole thing is of pull g out your cellphone and playing in that is socially acceptable; why isn’t pulling out a book and reading it.
I think it’s disrespectful in both circumstances
Both are rude.
Lol it’s rude to pretend your having a good time at the party. ??
No it’s not. It’s good manners!
Sorry I was being sarcastic.
I do all the time
Yes
Yes.
Yes!!!!
Unfortunately. In my mind I don’t see how a person can be on their cell phone and not be considered rude or unapproachable.
U must have been bored
One of Virginia Woolf’s relatives took a book to a funeral.
If it’s a kids party and you’re just there because you took your kids, go for it.. but if it’s for your friend or something, probably shouldn’t lol ?
Yes. You should be present in the moment
hell i whiped mine out at a connfance today
How would you feel if you were speaking and someone was ignoring you?
Nothing new for me
I did today at my nieces 12th. b-day party, my SIL’S side of the family aren’t friendly with us and they sit in one room and we sit in another, and no one else was at the party so I read while I waited for my niece to open her presents!! ??♀️ it was better than staring at the wall!!!
I think it depends on whose bday party it is if it you or you kids of course not but if its someone elses bday or theyre kids then possible
?♀️ books are better than people
Then don’t go to their parties.
You could always go to the bathroom with your book ?
I think you know the answer if you have to ask.
Absolutely! If you don’t like the party, go home and read!
Uh yeah
I just did today ?
Yes. And I’m someone who ALWAYS carries a book with me.
Yes.
Afraid it is perceived as rude!
Was everyone looking at their phone?
So I am told, but i do it any way
Never
I almost did it today but decided to leave instead..l
Yessssssssss
Nah! Read gal…read
Yes
unless your reading out loud to everyone..YES 🙂
Eh… I suppose if it’s your party! ?
My people!! Lol!!
Nope!!!!
well, it is somewhat rude, but I’ve done it. lol!
Me too. I installed kindle app on my phone. I even read during boring staff meetings ?
I say no because I would do this
No i don’t think so
That’s even worst.
No
I want to add, given that most people stare into their phones even when on a date, it’s maybe the Zeitgeist, but I think there’s no point in meeting people or having a party, when everyone dives into their virtual reality. But … it’s not offensive when people are like-minded I guess. It’s just me who doesn’t like it, that’s all.
if i see you at the same party i will read with you ?✌️ that’s my kind of party???
I love to read, but at a social function, yes, very rude.
Not if everyone is comfortable enough with everyone else. If a person there thinks it’s very rude then you probably can’t do it.
I know a person who mentions their book 24-7.
But just giving out bookmark promo isn’t quite as bad.
I think she is talking about the book she is currently reading not one she wrote
That’s why I love my kindle app on my iPhone!
Men have the same thought about something else than books 24/7
Also depends on who the party’s for!!! ??
Not if it’s YOUR party
Yep, it’s rude. But Lord knows I’ve done it at many social occasions.
Ah yes
Yes. Even if you’re just masking social anxiety or overwhelmed by all the activity going on around you, other guests will interpret your taking out a book and reading to mean that they bore you and are not worth your time or attention.
It’s the same as if you weren’t feeling sociable, had a headache or were simply ready to go home. If you’re unable to make your excuses and leave (someone else is driving, for example), find a room where you can be alone.
Yes! ?
Kind of something a donkey would do.
If you can’t stay in the moment, then leave. Someone invited you to a party, and maybe the greatest gift to give…is to give them your time. You can always read later….the book will always be there…but maybe the person who is celebrating a birthday…won’t!
Mine wasn’t a physical book, but an e-reader. At my great-nephews bowling party yesterday. I was bored and because of the way things were set up, I couldn’t get to the alleys to bowl. (I’m in a wheelchair and this place wasn’t very wheelchair friendly) I’m not a person that complains of things aren’t going my way. That’s part of life. So, no it’s not wrong. It’s no worse than pulling out your phone, reading Facebook. In my opinion.
Apples and oranges. It is an entirely different situation when there is an activity going on in which a guest can’t participate.
Chaperoning a middle school dance, I had a young man pull out his book, sit down by the wall, turn on his book light, and read the entire 3 hours of the dance. When parents came in to pick him up, he had asked me to say that I ‘had seen him focused and engaged during the entire party!’
Poor kid!! I understand that parents want their kids to experience things, but if he didn’t want to go and would’ve been happier at home reading, listen to him and don’t force him to go. ? I have 3 teenagers. They have 3 distinctly different personalities. I know sometimes we have to push them past their comfort zones to help them spread their wings, but it sounds like this kid wasn’t really into spreading his wings. lol!!
@Waynette , you’re exactly right! (Our son never went to a dance, and he is a successful computer engineering today). I learned how painful it was for some kids, and I did tell the parents I had seen their son several times during the dance and that he looked happy. At one point, two others sat down with him and were ‘just there’, too. Poor kids! Success isn’t always determined in the same way for every child!
@Mary EXACTLY!! My favorite quote ever is “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will spend its entire life believing that it’s stupid.” Albert Einstein. ❤️
I did that so many times as a kid
Good for him, lol.
Depends. If it’s a child’s party and you’re a parent/chauffeur it might be ok. But if it’s an adult family member or friend then, unless everyone is reading, yes. People are important too.
Ha! My people! I’m an only child so my mom always packed a book and toys so I could always entertain myself. To this day I pack a book, a crochet project or a bible study everywhere I go.
I don’t leave home without either my Nook or Kindle. I even have the Bible on it for church.