I can’t date someone who doesn’t read. I mean…..what would we have to talk about? ?????
I can’t date someone who doesn’t read.
I mean…..what would we have to talk about?
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I can’t date someone who doesn’t read.
I mean…..what would we have to talk about?
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I dated and married a non-reader. I have finally converted him. 🙂
I date a librarian. Highly, HIGHLY recommend. Not only do they read, but if you have a random question you’re just musing on, they look it up and tell you about it.
lol yes! im a lesbrarian, honestly. that’s my dream job.
Sarah how did you meet him? This is a great story!
On Twitter! He drives a children’s bookmobile and does library and story time for day care centers in his area. (We are long distance for the moment.) Been together almost two years.
@Sarah thats awesome!
My husband doesn’t read. He has to listen to me talk extensively about pretty much every book I read. ??
Yep. Same here. Lol!
Ditto!
I do the same! He also helps me pick sometimes.
Mine as well! Lol
My partner reads rarely. Mostly plays video games. This is totally okay with me because he doesn’t distract my reading time when he’s playing. However we do discuss the books I’m reading and what’s happening in the games he is playing because generally they have a good story line as well 🙂
?I can’t either
I love watching my guy read. I also can’t stand people who have atrocious grammar and spelling.
saaaaaaame
My husband is very intelligent, but has absolutely no language art skills. His spelling is so bad auto correct can’t figure out what he’s trying to say.
@Jennifer Same!
Married to a non reader for 40 years. He’s a wonderful husband and father.
My boyfriend and I read a lot, and both share a love for books. It’s pretty nice, honestly lol
My husband doesn’t read because he has dyslexia and gets migranes. And we have a wonderful time together. He’s very intelligent also. You never know what you might miss out on.
Exactly the same in this house. My husband can read anything technical but give him a fiction book he gets the worst headaches going
I’ve been listening to a lot of audio books and I think I’m gonna try and find something he might like and get him to try that. He often uses netflix while he does other things and I think he could listen to a book.
See I don’t get on with audio books that well. My husband liked the Terry Pratchett adaptation on sky, likes all the art work but he just can’t sit and read without getting stressed or a headache. Whereas I devour books average one a day, luckily both of our children are ‘readers’ they’re only 5 and 3 but love books, my youngest takes a book to bed to cuddle instead of a toy
I have anxiety and a lot of problems sitting still and focusing. So I like audio books because I can listen and paint, crochet, clean, workout etc. It gives me the chance to focus my mind on one thing and then my body on another and that calms my anxiety. Not to mention sometimes (depending on the story) it’s like being told a bedtime story and that’s a nice fuzzy feeling to me.
@Cassie I can completely understand that feeling, just not my personal taste. I can’t go to sleep at night without reading for a little bit.
Cassie Zehring me too! I love audio books. At 44 I finally gave them a real chance and now I am addicted. I listen on my phone with headphones. I am trying to find a good pair of wireless headphones. Have you any?
@Kerri I do not have wireless headphones. I did some research looking for some mainly because it’s so loud in the gym I need big headphones and my corded ones are not ideal. Just haven’t had the extra money to purchase any
Married over 45 years , he’s read1 book?
My husband does not read. He likes to joke that the only books he has ever finished were Pelican Brief and Buzz Said the Bee.
My fiancé likes to read a bit, but not to the extent that I do. He says he has a harder time these days keeping his concentration, but he always gets a few of his favorite biographies, autobiographies, history books for birthdays and Christmas and they keep him going all year. I’m strictly a fiction reader so we don’t talk much about books ?. But I can’t imagine being with anyone else.
My husband isn’t a reader, and that bummed me out for so long. Then he casually mentions he listened to audio books. I was like THAT COUNTS WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME
In every relationship I’ve ever had, my man has handed me a book and said “Read this and tell me what it’s about.” Ridiculous!
he asked you to do his homework!?
@Trisha they say it’s because it’s so easy for me. I never did it. If they want to know what it’s about, they can read it themselves.
Look, all. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing. & If you’re with someone that doesn’t read, I am happy you have someone. I am gay. I want someone I can go to bookstores with & be on the same vibe with & hold discussions. Someone intelligent & enjoys & understands what it means to be a book worm lol. I want someone like that to date, that’s all. Thats just me.
I get you!! Remember, I’m an old fart ?. Back in my 20s I went out with a few guys who would look at my walls of books and ask me if I’ve actually read any of them. No, buddy, I’ve got approximately 1200 books here just for decoration ?
@Joan Lol I mean, I admit. I have filler books. Books I just use to fill up my space bc I like the idea that I’m going to read them. But yea, I do read at least 1 to 2 books a week. I get it done lol. I know what you mean, though. Love this <3
You’ll be fine, she’s out there somewhere wondering where someone like you is at this moment too. And hopefully she doesn’t read garbage books ??
That’s the best comment in this entire dang thread lol.
My husband is a reader. I’ve dated both readers and non-readers.
In my experience the difference is being with a partner that respects your reading. Whether it’s buying you books or listening to you talk about them or whatever, it’s the attitude about your hobby that makes a good partner.
My husband was not a reader but he loved to buy books for me. He invariably bought something I had already read and paid full price for it. I eventually got him to stop.
The wish list function on Amazon helped with that for me. In the years before Amazon, I kept a list and before a holiday, I would write down two or three titles and tell him to surprise me. It worked.
Story time:
I used to date a guy, and we really bonded over books. He bought me The Cheese Monkeys, which we both loved and bonded over. We had a terrible, horrible breakup. I sought vengeance by texting him a MAJOR SPOILER when the sequel came out a week after our breakup. ???
Daaaamn lol.
I guess that could go both ways – this is a reason I can be happy my hubby isn’t a reader! I could totally see him accidentally spoiling a book for me.
Oh you’ll find something! Together 8 years, married 6. He’s read 2-3 books (I think it was Hunger Games-so I guess 3), we still talk about books….it’s just me who actually talks. He pretends to listen
Haha, I’ve been married almost 14 years and Hunger Games are the only ones my husband has read, too. ?
I’ve been married for 17.5 years to a non-reader. It works.
I’m hearing you. I’ve been married 16 years and my husband starts yawning and having watery eyes reading the paper of instruction leaflets. Eyes kind of glaze over when I start talking books. That’s ok though, I have my interests he has his.
We have totally different interests, too. I read so much more during football season.
My husband doesn’t read either. He will watch the movies of the books I read though.
More to life than reading surprisingly
True; on a bigger picture, I’m just putting out to the universe what kind of ppl I want in my life. I know that this is so important to me & I just want someone who respects & understands that. I’m not settling for less anymore.
That is the bigger picture. You might meet someone who is amazing but they might read very little or not at all ??♀️ There’s nothing to say that he might be influenced by you and actually start reading more though.
Your bigger picture, maybe.
My boyfriend is super picky about his books and prefers movies instead. We enjoy a healthy debate on which is better the book or movie ?
My husband isn’t a reader but he wholeheartedly accepts my reading addiction.
My husband doesnt read at all. However, he likes to hear me talk about books. Mainly because I am the quiet type so when I do talk it makes him happy.
I date a reader but our reading tastes are drastically different. So it’s not like the books are that much a thing we have in common.
It’s hard
My husband doesn’t read and he a gamer. It works very well, i don’t want him touching my books
football ????? for 26 years ?
I’m a football widow, too. In fact, that’s what he is watching right now. #theSEClife
@Holly enjoyed at first ( got Saturdays to myself ) however ‘lost’ my son to football aged 5 – luckily he did like football ( otherwise we’d have to have him adopted ?❤️?)
We talk about current events, jeeps, future plans, sports, people we know. There’s actually a whole life outside of books you can talk about…
Yes! He tells me constantly he reads way more than me just not books?
My husband is not a reader either
My hubby doesn’t read and neither do my kids. It’s crazy.
Same here! My daughter is brilliant at English / English literature in top 1% of country however she never reads ( only time I saw her read was a comic when 3!) ❤️
I find that so weird. My hubz loves avocado, I hate it. I don’t think he’ll divorce me because of it.
My husband isn’t a reader it makes me so sad. When we moved out of my apartment he threw away my bookshelves when I told him that I didn’t want to get rid of them. Luckily I kept the books but they’re all gathering dust in boxes.
Sorry but he sounds like a silly man!!! ( I’m being polite! Could use other words) ❤️
Petrolhead widow. I’ve never seen him with a book 19yrs married but he reads a lot on his laptop. Car stuff mainly.
My husband isn’t a reader 🙁
Exactly! I can’t date anyone who doesn’t read and doesn’t like Harry Potter! (Major Potterhead over here.)
My bf has a very small section of books and I have never seen him finish one!! ?
My husband doesn’t read either although he is very supportive of my addition to buy books/read books etc!
Mine doesn’t read either, which is fine with me.
So many other attributes so much more important.
To each their own right? My BF doesn’t read but we both play games so it’s something lol
Same here. It’s still fun. And surprisingly we have plenty of topics we can talk about for hours.
My partner doesn’t read. He lives and breathes fishing. He does try to take an interest in my books but it doesn’t bother me
I read while mine plays with his tackle, watches fishing and goes fishing
Its interesting how everybody is responding lol. Reading is such a big factor in my life, i don’t need to explain to others why i hold it at such importance in a partner. But yes, it is also a form of mutual respect if there are differences. If you have other things in common, thats great. Your situation is yours alone. But for me, i know what i like! Not to be taken so seriously though, just light humor.
It’s like my partner he always talks to me ab fishing. I try n listen but my book will b in the back of my mind lol I’m happy to sit and my book while he sits n fishing so it’s win win lol
Honestly, all my friends who read read different books than me. We always laugh about it but there are so many books out there it’s hard to overlap except on the classics.
My fiancé isn’t a reader but I still can’t get over how empty life must be without books! ??
My wife barely reads, average of 1 book a year. I talk books with others 🙂
I totally understand ?
My husband doesnt read. I’ve tried but just cant get him into it. But my entire family are avid readers, my grandparents were English professors and my nanna an author. My brother has read more books than anyone I’ve ever met. So I have loads of people to talk to about it. So I’m lucky that way
<3 this
@Trisha he did start The Hunger Games and said how much better it was than the books. I got so excited thinking I’d hooked him but nope. He just stopped lol. But I chatter to him about this book or that that I’ve just read or adored and he politely listens and pretends to care about it lol
While I’m glad that I see so many responses of happy marriages with someone who isn’t a reader, I totally get what you’re saying.
I’m happily married (15 years) to a non-reader but I certainly have my moments wishing we could bond over books.
My husband doesn’t read books and although it baffles me it doesn’t change our relationship. That said he is more than happy to listen to me talking about books I’m reading and totally understands it’s a passion of mine.
Same!
My husband and i very rarely read the same genre but 40 years on we still cant stop talking to each other. So mutch happening in the world and so much football to chat about.
I ve had 3 serious relationships and non have been readers! They never understood that feeling of getting a new book, or been on the last chapter and already planning your next read!
My hubby doesn’t read go figure
My husband will read if he finds something he can really get into and when I read he talks to me the whole time ? but I have never been happier in my life. God knew I needed this man in my life. ❤
My husband and I have literally nothing in common. We are complete opposites. We have no shared hobbies. He likes golf, airsoft, motorbikes, action movies. I like staying home with the kids, and reading. It doesn’t affect us negatively at all. Him going out on his bike gives me time to read etc. When he is watching action movies on a night, I sit and read beside him.
Opposites attract after all x
Minus the kids that is the story of my life lol.
I can not even make friends with a non reader.
Your puppy, music, food, places to see, that you have seen, DIY, Movies… etc…. Me Bwahahahaha!
I see you, @Lisa ????
My husband has read only one book in his life!! So sad?doesn’t know what he’s missing?
I’ve been married for 37 years and my husband only reads his comic collections. Some are hard covers and I tease him about it. But he listens to me talk about my books all the time.
Lol my partner can’t read and hates it lol
My wife doesn’t do books as much as I do, but we do movies together. At home. In our recliners. Then we talk about them.
My husband doesn’t read. I read. He’s into making tremendous noise by playing guitars or mixing music. I can only read in silence . It’s ok though ???
Music and Movies. LOL. ??
My hubby doesn’t read , but his passion is music. Works out well he listens to his records and I can happily read uninterrupted. And he is patient enough to listen to me rattle on about a book I’ve just finished.
I don’t actually know how to get on with people who don’t read. I just don’t get it! My husband keeps telling not to ask people if they are readers or asking what people are currently reading lol
It is not me asking that people are bothered about I don’t think, it is when they say they don’t read and I just can’t stop myself from tutting or rolling my eyes or maybe it is just the look of horror on my face they object to ?
My boyfriend doesn’t read and we have plenty to talk about. We have been together for 10 years now.
ha nobody reads anymore.
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maybe nobody you know reads anymore….? i hope that changes for you.
well duh im very clearly not referencing those of us here. nobody i know does, very few ppl
Perhaps you should find some new friends that do read. I have been meeting with the same 10 women for book club for more than 25 years.
My husband has never read a book in his life and therefore has no interest, not even in the one that I wrote! Mind you I’m not too sorry, I think the rude bits might shock him! ?????
My husband doesn’t read much.. but we still get along well.. aside from reading.. Things that clung us together was our love in music, games, and respect because of our differences in taste and preferences ? somehow the differences makes the relationship interesting and we learn more about the persons personality and just love them even though some of what they like seems silly or may not be my cup of tea.. like how he thinks reading is a bit boring.. and how i get bored with online games easily too (even though i get quite good at it) .. so yeah it all depends..
since everyone jumped all over me, it’s a weird statement to begin with. theres plenty to talk about
So true.
… And while both are reading you do not have to talk at all…
<3 This
I used to have a boyfriend who, when I found out he couldn’t read, I quit dating him. I think back on it now, and realize he may have had dyslexia. That was a long time ago, so perhaps there was no knowledge of that problem then.
My husband used to read loads. Hasn’t read much for years . Not really grounds for divorce ?